You guys, I have a confession to make. I hate yoga pants. Now that I have your attention, let me explain. I don’t hate yoga pants. I love yoga pants. Just bought two new pairs in fact. God bless the person who invented them and all that. But I am sick of wearing them to work all the time and how they make me feel sometimes, which is not at all like the boss lady I know I am.
I don’t really know how, or even when it happened. When I worked retail, I made every effort to look cute and put together. Now granted, I worked for Apple, and they have a more relaxed dress code than most retail stores. We could wear jeans, which I did, but I always wore them with a cute top (even though it got covered up by my work shirt), cute sneakers (because any other footwear was just a bad idea), and accessories (usually earrings), and I always (always) did my hair and makeup.
When I first started working for myself, I applied the same getting ready recipe… for a while. As time wore on, I fell into what can only be described as a lazy routine (which wasn’t really a routine at all, but you know what I mean). Jeans became yoga pants, or sweatpants, or even (some days) pajama pants. My cute tops became (decidedly) less cute and I found myself wearing the same tops over and over again (leaving my cute ones for adventures outside the house). I still did my hair (for the most part), but I hardly ever wore any makeup. And unless I had a Skype meeting, lots of errands to run, somewhere to go, or someone to see, this is what many days have looked like for me. (I know I’m not the only one… right?)
So, what changed?
What made me not want to get dressed and look good everyday? Why did I (like so many other creative women entrepreneurs who work from home) adopt what seems to have become the self-employment uniform of yoga pants and a top knot?
Well, for starters…
- It’s easy. Almost too easy to pull on a pair of yoga pants and throw my hair up in a top knot. Actually, a top knot is too hard for me. But a messy bun? Now, that’s easy!
- It’s effortless. Yoga pants and a messy bun require very little effort or even thought. Anything more takes time and effort–and ain’t nobody got time for that!!
- It’s comfortable. Everyone knows yoga pants are the most comfortable article of clothing everrrr. Enough said.
- It’s a timesaver. Why spend time carefully choosing an outfit or doing my hair and makeup when I could be answering emails?!
- It’s a waste. A waste of time, a waste of product, a waste of laundry detergent. It’s just me. No one’s going to see me. I don’t care how I look. Why waste a cute outfit, hair, and makeup on an insignificant day—that’s been my philosophy.
But I do care how I look.
I care that the first thing I see when I walk by the hall or bathroom mirror is that I look pale and tired. I care that I am cringing over my appearance going to answer the door when the UPS guy comes to deliver a package. I care that I wasn’t looking my best when I ran into someone at the grocery store when I zipped in (for one thing) real quick. I care that friends and family ask why I’m still in my pajamas (what is it that you do all day?!) at 11am on a Thursday.
I care that I do and don’t look the part of a hard-working boss lady on any given day. I FEEL like I do because most days I’m putting my business before myself. I don’t have time to look put together and cute because there’s work to be done and I have to do it because I’m the only one. (Unless, of course, I have a meeting out, or a Skype date scheduled, then I make the time and put in the effort because it’s for business first, not myself.)
But the UPS guy, the grocery store run-in, the family and friends don’t know any of this. They don’t know that I’ve been up since 5am reading up on ways I can use Pinterest to grow my blog traffic, replying to emails, writing blog posts, scheduling social media posts, working on the website, brainstorming new content, packaging shop orders, folding laundry, making coffee, and everything else I do. They don’t see all the hard work I do.
And even though I’m polite and smile big and don’t show how much the jabs or looks hurt, I care about how these people see me. I care how I see me. I care that my self-esteem is a bit low on the days I choose not to get fully ready. I care that I feel better about myself on the days I did put in the time and effort to put myself together. I care that I feel like a better boss lady who’s kicking butt and looking good doing it while I do. I care that I feel more like the former most days than the latter.
Which is why I want to make some changes.
Because I can. Because wearing yoga pants and not fully getting ready some days is a choice I am making and I want to choose differently from now on. I want to really make the effort to get dressed and put on a little “face” before sitting down to work every day. Because it’s really not that much easier to put on yoga pants and a hoodie. It’s just as easy to put on jeans, a cute top, and a pair of flats. It really is. Which is why I KNOW I can do this!! (And so can YOU!!!)
They say doing something for 21 days creates a habit that sticks—so why not apply that to this? I’m challenging myself to DRESS FOR SUCCESS for the next 21 business days!! I’m actually wicked excited about this!! And I hope you’ll follow my #dressforsuccess / #hlastyle journey on Instagram!! It starts today!!
You can join me if you like, boss lady 🙂